SEE The 5 signs your marriage is at risk of divorce

Arguing is normal. Conflict is inevitable. Ups and downs are part of a long-term marriage. So when does an ebb run the risk of becoming the beginning of the end or the end itself? Here are five signs that indicate your marriage is at risk.

1. You begin to feel apathy…

for
the marriage and for your spouse. You feel your love for your husband
or wife disappearing, not because you feel angry or hurt, but because
you feel nothing. If the flames have turned to embers and the embers are
burning out, you relationship is definitely at risk.

2. You’re negative about your spouse.

All your conversations with friends and family members about your spouse are negative. You find yourself focusing on what your spouse does wrong and have difficulty identifying what your spouse does right. You only seek out friends and family who agree with your point of view and validate your negative feelings.

3. You begin to avoid being home with your spouse.

You find yourself making plans with friends, having drinks with colleagues after work, or worse, having an affair.
If you are spending all your free time with others with the intention
of avoiding your spouse, you have already disengaged. At this point, you
may prefer to avoid the marital issues rather than address them. This
will definitely lead to the relationship’s demise if this behavior
continues.

4. You fantasize a lot about being single and on your own.

While
it is normal to fantasize about what it would be like to be single or
with another person every now and then, if you are doing this on a
regular basis, you may have one foot out the door and are preparing the
bring the other foot along. Remember, thoughts precede action and you
can talk (or think) yourself into a divorce before you know it.

5. You have a “light bulb” moment.

And
that lightbult tells you you’ve been tolerating a marriage that simply
does not work. In fact, you believe that you have kept yourself in a
situation that is not good for you and conclude that this is no longer
acceptable. You feel committed to your well-being and will no longer
accept disrespectful or abusive behaviors. When the light bulb goes on, the marriage needs to change NOW or you will gather the strength to leave.

Most
people hang in there until the bitter end. They hold on to the hope
that something will shift and the marriage will be saved. No one wants a
marriage to end. It’s painful. Some marriages really do need to end.
But many do not. If you identify with any of the signs above, you need
to act now. Don’t wait. You are at the brink of no return. Getting the
right help with the right person can make the difference. Act now.

If
you or someone you know wants to save their marriage, or if need be,
leave their marriage responsibly, contact me today. I’m here to help. I
provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right
now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t
need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the
opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

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